Hope you are all doing well with a small break of pleasant weather for the past few days. Pray and hope this pleasant weather continues to keep us happy and comfortable.
There had been too much of a concern about kids using the cellphone and other electronic devices. This concern is really true and should be taken seriously. But at the same time, we need to raise a question: Who is responsible for this situation. Who else can we blame except the parents? Yes! We, the parents are responsible for this situation. This is all about parenting.
Recently there was a video on the social media and on the news too. That video was about small coming out on the roads in Hamburg, Germany, protesting against the parents with the slogan: Play with me, not with your cellphones. (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DLaAmfrmmdE) Yes! This was the message that those kids on the road wanted to convey to all the parents, both in Germany and all over the world. We, the parents are distancing ourselves away from the children, more sadly sometimes even without we knowing it. It is really disastrous for the children. We do it in the pretext of working for the children’s future.
These kids are affected not only by their using the cellphones, they are also affected when the parents use the cellphones and not spending time with the children. There was also another incident where a four-year-old daughter of one particular person wanted to gain her father’s attention and he was meddling with the cellphone. This should have made the girl indignant because of which she grabbed the cellphone from her father and threw it in the sea water. Some had commented that the child was showing her attitude, for which I would blame the father again.
The childhood is a time of extreme feeling of insecurity. The child which has been comfortable in the womb for certain number of months, comes out to the world feeling completely abandoned. That is the time we need to give the child utmost feeling of security. The child needs the nearness of the parents, attention of the parents. Because for a little child only the parents are the world. It takes time for the child to understand that the world is such. So, until the child could understand this we need to take proper care of the child in such a way that the child doesn’t feel insecure in any way. The children who grow with such feeling of insecurity are the ones that become later day anti-social elements. That we should keep in mind.
The better thing would be to think like a child. We should inculcate and develop the mind of a child in our brain. Only then we can understand what the child needs or feels. That way of dealing with the child would make the child feel better and secure. We need to live for the child and live with the child. That is our responsibility. God has entrusted those little ones to us with the hope that we will fulfill the needs of the child and not fail the hope that God has in us. For a child, we need to think with the children’s mind and act with adult’s mind.
Yours sincerely in Christ Jesus,
Fr. A. Antony